I’m always encouraging people to be more honest. I really think that people need to stop lying so much. I’ve found one reason among many that causes a lot of people to lie.
People are too easily offended. They take everything to heart, and read negativity into plain facts. Or they twist things into something into negativity due to events of their past. People like to feel hurt and put down. It’s messed up, but it’s true.
There are a lot of people who will lie to others because they don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. They know that they mean no harm and they’re just telling the truth, but they’ll lie instead because others are too sensitive. They take things wrong and get hurt or angry. It’s not the teller’s fault, it’s the recipients, but it changes the way people interact.
If people would get a grip on themselves, we could be more honest. I learned long ago to not take everything people say to heart, and not to read into what they say. I don’t always succeed, but I try my best. I pay attention for personal opinion versus fact. I do not get offended over opinion. I’ve been called every name in the book in several languages, I just laugh at it or ignore it now. I also don’t assume that there is some hidden evil meaning or motive behind what others say, the way most people do.
Really, people need to get a grip. Grow up. Take honesty for what it is. When you find out that someone lied to you to save your feelings you’re just going to be p!ssed at them for having not been honest, so why not be the kind of person who can take honesty and cut out all the intermediate BS?
Can you take people being honest with you? Are you constantly looking for hidden negative meaning in what people say to you? Are you willing to be more honest and accept more honesty?