Yeah, I know, I said that I was taking some time off and having fun, but the ideas keep coming! It’s cool though. I’ll still get to have my fun, but I totally love being inspired and having stuff to say. So much for my worry that I wouldn’t write enough content to fill the day!
Anyway, the thought that I had to laugh at was this: It just occurred to me that I can probably help more people writing the way I have been these last few days than I could have when I was writing the other way. You know, when I was being all rigid and everything had to have a lesson and I was trying to be this self-help guru kind of person. Not that that was all bad, my heart was in the right place, but it wasn’t totally me.
What hit me is that right now I can probably connect to more people. Why? Because I’m not trying to be a professional. My doctorate and experience be damned, I’m just being me. I’m here, writing whatever, talking about anything, sharing my thoughts and feelings and likes and everything. I’m being all weird and eclectic and flawed and well, you know, HUMAN. And that’s a really good thing.
Reading the work of a pro is all well and good, and I’ve read stuff by many teachers and gurus and enjoyed and learned from it. The thing is, it leaves a hole after a while. It gets old listening to someone talk like they’ve got it all figure out and it can make you feel like they think they’re better than you. I always end up wanting real stories from real people who are still figuring things out. They may have it good or they may not, but they’re willing to admit that they’re still a work in progress.
That kind of thing makes it more real, you know? So by letting go of the goal of being a professional self-help writer and just being myself, I can probably get more people to relate to me, trust me, and that will help them. It’s like when you have a personal problem, you’re more likely to go to your friend first and a professional as a last resort. I want to be that friend people turn to, not the last resort. I want to really connect to people and form friendships and trust and have a good time too.
It’s kind of cool to be realizing this. But I guess that’s all part of the learning process and becoming the best person that you can be. Here and there you come to realize that you were getting it wrong, the light bulb comes on, and you make a change for the better. I’m not even angry at myself, which is awesome and much more productive than beating myself up. I know something now that I didn’t get before, and I can get better from here.