It’s been said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. Unfortunately, as creatures of habit, we have this belief within us that if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Because of that, we keep trying the same things and thinking that eventually, one of these times it’s got to work. Sometimes that’s true, but I think that there has to come a time when you’ve tried again and again without success, so you switch tactics and try something else.
I have been trying that over the course of my life, and I find that when you try new things, even if you fail, you usually learn something. Sometimes you even find the way that you’ve been searching for, and you finally get over that hurdle in your life. With that in mind, I’m always looking for new ways to tackle my problems, always with the hope that maybe what I’m doing now will be the thing to move me forward.
So after writing my last article about feeling stuck and possibly having limiting beliefs, I did a little browsing around the internet and came across a site where there was a video about limiting money beliefs. After watching that and reading some of the many comments that followed, I got some new ideas. Part of my brain thinks they make sense and the other part thinks they sound ridiculous. But hey, what I’ve been doing hasn’t worked, so why not try something new? The worst that can happen is nothing will change and the best that can happen is I find something that gets me on the right track.
So, they talked about changing the way you think about money. One of the things that got mentioned was learning to look at your bank account every single day and be grateful for it. For me, when I look at my account all I can think is “that’s not enough”. Well, that would be a pretty limiting belief, wouldn’t it? It actually is enough for right now, more than enough actually. It’s just not enough for the future. But the future isn’t here yet, is it? What I have now could multiply exponentially in the near future, but if I’m currently thinking that I don’t have enough, that could become how I always think.
Someone in the comments mentioned learning to love their taxes, even when they have to pay. Paying taxes means you earned money, and if you pay them, you had enough income. I have been dreading my taxes because I always owe, but what if I could be thankful that I made enough for me to need to file? That got me to thinking about how I hate to pay bills. What if I could learn to love paying bills? If I’m paying them, that means I have enough money, and I should be grateful for that. As long as I can keep paying, that means I must have enough money coming in.
That led me on to how I bounce back and forth between buying things without stress and holding on to money like it’ll disappear. I’m in the latter state right now because I know I’m going to need a lot of money to move this year, so I’m fearful that if I spend anything I won’t have it for later. Maybe that’s part of the problem. If I keep thinking that what I have is all I’ll have, how am I going to get more? While it’s good to be responsible about my spending, it’s not good to go without and perpetuate that feeling of lack.
So, while learning to love taxes and bills sounds kind of silly, I haven’t tried it before, so why not give it a shot? My former thoughts haven’t changed my situation, maybe these ones will. Honestly, I could apply similar thoughts to my whole career with a little tweaking. Maybe that’s what I need to do. Maybe I just figured out what’s holding me back. If not, I’m sure I’ll learn some lessons along the way that will benefit me, so there’s really no down side.