You may have noticed that you haven’t seenposting in a while. He may be post randomly in the future, but for the most part he’s not using Bubblews anymore. It’s not for any of the reasons you might guess either.
We’ve basically switched the “typical” household roles. I have become the primary bread-winner, and he’s the homemaker. I sit here and write and promote and do other things to make money. He cooks and cleans and makes sure I take breaks and stay happy. It’s not the way of living either of us thought we wanted, but it turns out it’s the way of life that works.
We’ve tried a lot of things over the years, and we keep ending up having issues. It led to arguments and stress. We’d be fine for a while, then things would crop back up. A while back we sat down and took a long look at what’s worked and what hasn’t in the past. We noticed a trend. Whenever I work and Eric takes care of the house, we’re both a lot happier. We don’t get as stressed and we both accomplish more.
Interestingly enough, the happier and less stressed I am, the more money I seem to make. Every time we’ve had this kind of arrangement, our income went up. When we tried a more “traditional” man earns money woman stays home approach, or tried both of us working, it was only a matter of time before things got stressful and we’d both end up unhappy.
So, even though this isn’t the kind of arrangement either of us thought we wanted, we’ve realized that it works. I’m so glad that we’re intelligent, open-minded people who aren’t afraid to break out of the norms and stereotypes of society. A lot of couples would never even think of trying something like this, because of the perceived gender roles. I was even a bit resistant to it at first, and I know some people will think that what we’re doing is “wrong”.
I’m just happy that it works. It’s not the first time we’ve had to find unusual ways of doing things in order to be happy. Luckily, we’re flexible like that. We’ve learned to communicate often and honestly, and really keep our minds open to anything. We also follow what feels good far more than what anyone else thinks is right.
So you won’t be seeing Eric on Bubblews much, but rest assured that he’s doing well and that we’re much happier now that we’ve gotten back into this way of doing things.