Yesterday I wrote an article to get people think more about the good in themselves and this is sort of an extension of that idea. Society has taught us to always compare ourselves to others and to feel like we’re less than others. Because of this we have a lot of self-destructive behaviors and a lot of self-esteem issues.
One of many things that we need to work on is eliminating destructive self-talk. Having been there myself, I understand how it can be hard to change this habit, but it’s something that we need to do if we hope to be healthy, happy people. The world can be an ugly place and there may be a lot of people out there who try to bring us down, we don’t need to compound the issue by bringing ourselves down.
How many times have you hear another, or even yourself saying things like “I’m ugly.” “I’m not good enough.” “Born poor, always poor.”? We tear ourselves down because that’s what we’ve been taught to do. Now, there’s nothing wrong with always striving to be better and more, it’s a good idea when done right. However, always feeling less based on someone else’s opinions, and worse, feeling like those are your opinions too, is only going to lead to a life of misery.
You need to realize that you are capable of anything you set your mind to. You are as good as you think you are. You are as wonderful as you believe you are. What other people think really doesn’t matter, it’s what you think of yourself. Some people think I’m ugly, undereducated, lazy, lacking style, oh, the list could go on! I used to talk about myself as if those things were true. The thing is, none of them are, and they never were. I learned to see the good in myself and life fell into a new rhythm.
Don’t become conceited, but do find the good in yourself and refer to yourself, both internally and verbally, as the amazing person you are. Focus on what’s great about you and work to make the rest better. Stop dragging yourself down lower and lower with destructive talk and thought.