The more I learn and grow, the more I wish that I could just unlearn all the things that the outside world has put into my head. Between the years of abuse, the horrible so-called “friends” and society in general, I have a lot of things in my head that I’d like to get rid of. As parts of society become more enlightened, others feel the same way.
Unfortunately, these messages that keep us part of the slave, sheep mentality have been getting pumped into our heads since we were children. They’re thrown at us every day of our lives. It’s difficult to extricate oneself from it all without becoming a hermit in the mountains.
I heard somewhere that for every one negative thing you hear you need to hear the opposite 20-50 times to remove it. If that’s true, and knowing that negative messages are coming at us every day, it seems almost impossible to conceive of changing our way of thinking.
Some things aren’t hard if you really want them. Seeing beauty in the world, looking at people without constant judgement, being more open minded, these things can be done. Some things are harder though. It’s actually odd to me what things seem difficult and what ones seem easy.
For instance, I want to unlearn all the “rules” about how women should look and what constitutes pretty and ugly. It’s all subjective anyway. I don’t like wearing a lot of makeup and I don’t care about fashion, yet I can’t seem to stop myself from losing several minutes each time I want to go out, worrying about my hair, lack of makeup or clothing. I also keep having relapses of feeling fat, even though I know I’m smack in the middle of what’s considered medically correct for my height and age.
I do my best to work the way I want and stick to my own set of ethics, but there are still times those old thoughts of doing it like everyone else and therefore being more successful creep in. Even though I love sharing my ideology and I believe I’m helping the world, thoughts of how society thinks people like me are “wacko” and less valuable sometimes seep through the cracks.
I do my best to fight the paradigm every day, but it’s not always easy. I often wish that I could scan my brain like I would my hard drive, and just delete all the programs and files that I now consider to be outdated, useless or harmful. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? Do you have any methods that you use to unlearn or remove bad programming from your own mind?