As 2014 comes to a close, it’s that time of year to start thinking about the future and making our plans for 2015. Many people choose to simply forget all that’s happened in the year, believing that they need to be free of any “baggage” so that they can have a better year to come. However, forgetting or ignoring the past will actually set you up to have more issues than you want next year.
Yes, we all need to let go of hate and anger and all the toxic things that eat us up inside. The thing is, you can’t just ignore what’s happened to you or pretend that it never was. If you really want to go into the new year on the right foot, you have to take a good look at the ups and downs of the past year, and learn from what’s happened.
I know, it doesn’t sound like a good time to sit down and run your mind through all the bad shit that happened to you this year. It sounds like a drag to go thinking about your failures and low points. The thing is, you’re not going to do it to wallow in it or depress yourself, you’re going to do it so that you can learn. If you take a good look at what you’ve been through, there are tons of lessons to be learned. If you don’t learn those lessons, you’ll just repeat the same mistakes int he new year.
For example, I lost some friends recently. it sucks to think about it, but I learned that I need to watch for the signs of a dishonest relationship and clique mentality. I also learned that I have to be more careful with how I say things, and be unafraid to bring up issues respectfully when I see them. I had a dip in my sales as well, and found that being overly promotional drives people away, but being friendly and descriptive helps. There are plenty of other things, but I think you get the idea. You need to look at what you’ve gone through and try to take something useful from it.
Once you’ve looked over these things and noted the lesson, you can commit to being better and then let it go. After you’ve learned what you can from your hardships, that’s the time when it’s healthy to just put it out of your mind and focus on the future. Just remember to take those lessons with you into the new year and use them. If you don’t, you’ll end up repeating the same things again and again.
I suggest that you take some time to think about your year, and really look at the low points to see what you can learn. Write down the lessons if it helps. Make sure you go into the coming year knowing more and committing to being a better person. It’s also good to bring yourself back to a happier place by looking over the good of the year. There are lessons there too. If something was good, you know what you should do again.
I hope that all of us have a wonderful 2015.