For the most part, people respond to the situations they experience without any thought. We have knee-jerk reactions to the things that happen to us, and we tend to be completely unaware of the effect that they have on our lives.
We all need to be mindful of the way that we react to things. Not only can it have an impact on ourselves, our reactions have an impact on others. Over time, we can actually affect the reactions that others have to us. This can be a positive or negative thing, depending on how much control we keep over ourselves.
When you encounter a problem, you need to learn how to control your reactions to it. For example, if you’re working on an essay, and your computer crashes after hours of typing, how would you react? Anyone would be upset, but do you take it to the extreme? Do you allow it to ruin your day, stress you out and make you angry? If so, you need to change the way you react. Try taking a few deep breaths, and thinking about how you can recover, instead of wasting your energy being angry that it happened. Once something has happened, there’s often nothing you can do except move on, and you need to be able to do that.
Our reactions to situations are something to be aware of, but we also have to be careful when it comes to our responses to other people. When someone is rude or does something you don’t like, how do you respond? Do you get angry, yell at people or act rude or inconsiderate in return? If you do, you’re not making the situation any better. You need to find ways to react that are more productive.
It’s important that we conserve our energy for positive uses. Anger, frustration, stress and the like are not useful. If you become stressed as a response to a person or an event, you need to think of another way to react. Let little things go. Is being ticked off for 20 minutes because you broke a nail or spilled your coffee really worth it? You’d be better off just letting it go, and moving on.
When it comes to people, we are much more likely to respond negatively. When someone hurts or upsets you, you want to get back at them for it. Unfortunately, that’s only going to add fuel to the fire. Try ignoring them, leaving the room, or calmly discussing their behavior. Granted, a lot of people aren’t going to be willing to talk rationally about their behavior, but it’s worth a shot at least. And remember, revenge is just a waste of time and energy. You may think you’re getting back at someone, but all you’re really doing is expending valuable energy, adding to the problem, and lowering yourself to the level of the person who’s upset you.