I can’t count the number of times that I have seen people get angry because someone is doing better at something than they are. To be perfectly honest, I used to be one of those people too. I used to look at others who were having more success and I would be jealous and angry. Some part of me would secretly want them to fail. Some people I’ve seen are worse than that. They want others to fail so badly that they’ll withhold knowledge so others can’t get ahead, and some of them will even go so far as to try to sabotage other people’s success.
I stopped being like that quite some time ago. I realized that another person doing well is a good thing. people should have success at what they’re doing. And no matter what a lot of people have tried to tell me, I don’t think that someone else doing well takes anything away from me. it doesn’t make less for me to have. We can all do well and there will always be enough to go around.
It makes me sad when people refuse to share knowledge, or they give misinformation in the hopes that others will do badly so that they can do better. It’s no way to live. I have learned to look at people who are more successful than me and smile. I’m glad for them. I try to learn from them if I can, and if I can’t, I still wish them well. I may look to them as an inspiration or I may just cheer for them to continue doing well.
There’s really no need to be angry, jealous or stressed when you see people doing better than you. You can get there too if it’s the right thing for you to be doing and you put your heart into it. You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else, nor do you have to live or work by anyone else’s standards.
I share my successes and how I got them because I want to inspire other people. I want people to know that they can do anything they set their minds to. [laughs] If I’d listened to other people I’d be a failure right now, but I did things my own way, learned from others, and here I am, doing better every day. You can do that too. Do your best, enjoy it, and be happy for those who’ve gotten further.